gable428 Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Patty Jo and Bill, hugs and prayers being sent your way. May God bless you both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quiltingjoyful51 Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Patty Jo, My thoughts are with you. My Jesus hold you and your family in His loving arms as you walk this path. Joyce Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mskazooli Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 I am so sorry, Patty Jo. Know that Bill will soon be resting in the Lord's arms and feeling no pain. Be strong and know that we all love you and support you. We are there to listen when you need us. I wish you the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb2bie Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Oh darn it, This is the second person this weekend that I've heard this news about. I will be adding you and Bill to my prayer list which is growing longer as we speak. May God hold you in his hand as you go thru this time of loss. No matter when we lose someone we love, it's too early. Patty, you will be in our prayers for a long time to come. (((((hugs))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewingjunky Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 You are both in my prayers. Brendalee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaildrake Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Patty Jo Bill & Family; May this be a comfort to you. . When we are absent from this body, we are present with the Lord. I have lost 3 Husbands and this was such a comfort to me. Just knowing that they are with God and at peace. Praying for you at this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liz2075 Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Patty Jo please know I care and I'm thinking of you at this very sad time. Please also know my caring and thoughts can't compare to our God in heaven. He is there with you and Bill. His arms are holding you both. I am lifting you high in my prayers. I have no words to convey my thoughts. I'm sending my love to you! Liz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hayevymae Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Patty Jo, My thoughts and prayers continue to stay strong for you and Bill at this very difficult time. I know you've savored every minute with Bill, and continue to do so. He will be in a much better place, the Lord is waiting for him untill you meet again. You have the Lord, us, your family, friends and church to lean on... know that we are all here for you and Bill to lift you up and give you strength. God bless you both my friend. Evy Hayes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gator Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 PattyJO, my love and prayers are with you and your family. Your quilting friends are all wrapped around you, hope you feel the love and caring. We're here to listen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PamelaA Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 Patty Jo, I know there is nothing I can say or do to relieve your pain and sorrow. I am lifting you both up in prayer and send lots of cyber ((((HUGS)))) your way. Pamela Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shawn Posted November 10, 2008 Report Share Posted November 10, 2008 My prayers goes out to both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonjaHammond Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Patty Jo: Please know that you, Bill and your family are in my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnHenry Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 I am so sorry for your profound sadness. I cry at the very thought of my husband's eventual passing, but I pray that he goes first because I want to take on the suffering instead of him having to suffer if I were to go first. . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Dear Patty Jo, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very difficult time in your lives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo, Your news brought me to my knees to say prayers for you and Bill. My favorite song is "In the Garden" "and He walks with me and He talks with me, and He tells me I am His own, and the Joy we share as we tarry there, none other has ever known." When Bill's suffering is done, he will be in the garden with Jesus. Picture him there. God Bless and watch over you and your family at this time and always. Love, Robin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaR Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 "Because He Lives", is another great comforter.. no matter what the sadness, depression, grief etc is from. My Favorite Hymn. Prayers continue, mostly for peace of heart and mind. God Bless. RitaR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarieBrewer Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Iam so sorry for your sadness. Sometimes it's hard to keep your eye on the prize-God our Father and Heaven!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PattyJo Posted November 12, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Just a bit of an update. Please pray that I can keep Bill in his bed. He keeps thinking that he has to go somewhere and gets out of bed and falls. He has now fallen 3 times. The first time my son and I got him back to bed, the 2nd time a neighbor was home and helped me get him into bed and last night I had to call the fire dept to help me get him into bed - 4 burley young guys made it look like they were picking up a child and I couldn't even begin to move him. This last fall was the worst as he fell on his face and his teeth cut his lip. He is just sore all over from the falls and is now moaning each time he tries to move. He does this as soon as I leave the room (to shower, comb my hair and the one last night I took the garbage out to the curb for pickup. So I'm hesitant to leave him for more than a minute. Thank you all for those prayers. Still can't believe that this is the path that I'm on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VictoriaG Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo Call the hospice nurse and explain. They can help with something that will help Bill be less agitated. Rely on the Hospice people during this time. My mother just passed away in September and I know you're not realizing how tired you really are. Prayers for peace, vg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quilting Heidi Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo, My grandfather did this as well. He was always convinced that he had something he had to do or there was something on him. My father got side rails for his bed and he wasn't strong enough to get around them so he didn't fall any more. Hugs to you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PattyJo Posted November 12, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Victoria & Heidi - I've called hospice after every fall and they have sent out a nurse to check him. The have changed his medication, but it doesn't seem to make a difference and the side rails, - Bill uses them to pull himself up with them and the last fall last night, I had 2 friends help me move a recliner right next to the bed to block the area not guarded by the rails and he still got out. He was funny yesterday one time while he was trying to get out, I kept saying no he couldn't and he said "Why can't you just let me be stubborn!" I told him to go ahead and be stubborn, but I was more stubborn. We both ended up chuckling over that one. This morning he is talking about "taking a tumble" and he wonders how that happened. anyway, thanks for listening. Our hospice nurse will be around this morning and I'm going to insist that we get a bigger dose of something so that he won't keep doing this. Thanks again for listening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nineva Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo, You ARE tired. I saw that myself. Sleeping on the couch and listening for every breath is not getting rest. My late husband did the same thing even at the VA hospital. He wanted to do things for me! If you want someone to come sit with him while you shower, all you have to do is call girlfriend. You know I will be there. If you want to take a real nap, even on the couch, call. I'll bring a book. No handwork for this girl. LOL :P:P:P:P That's Beth's job. :P:P You are loved and always remember, my dear friend, you are literally surrounded by angels. :) Nancy Jo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaR Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo, I've been thru the care-giving with our son, and you really don't know how exhausted you are, now IS the time to rely on Hospice and friends, and neighbors and take care of yourself a little. We wouldn't want you crashing when you need to be doing other things or caring for Bill. Love the bit about being stubborn. Hugs and God Bless, RitaR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sherri Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo - My mom did the very same thing - I couldn't leave her for a minute before she'd be trying to get out of bed. I tried bed rails, too - barely slowed her down - just gave her something solid to grab hold of. As weak as she was, I couldn't figure where she got the burst of energy and strength to wiggle around those rails! She too, took a couple tumbles.....one that gave her a fat lip. Our hospice team did what they could - within their parameter to provide patient comfort and caregiver support. For your sake (and Bill's safety) I hope your hospice nurse can come up with a way to help. I know what you mean when you say that you can't believe that this is the path you are on. My thoughts are right there with you.....having just gone down a similar path less than a month ago.....I know how overwhelming it can be. Try to take care of yourself, too. I know it seems impossible right now - the intensity of each day leaves you exhausted.....it's hard to renew your energy when you are always "on" - day and night. Venting does help! And we will be here to listen. Take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsbishwit Posted November 12, 2008 Report Share Posted November 12, 2008 Patty Jo; My FIL did this as well when he was going through this. Hspice prescribed him an anti aniexity drug (plus by this time he was on a high dose of morphen as well for the pain). The anti aniexty drug should relax him to the point where he won't try to get up out of bed (or so that's what our hospice nurse told us and it did work). Will continue to keep praying for you and Bill. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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