cblevins Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 After reading all of the posts and much soul searching I have made a decision about selling everything. I need the basement emptied so it can be remodeled. I have decided to move everything upstairs without organizing it. I believe it was just overwhelming to try and think about everything there is to do. My daughter and sister in law are going to help me move all of the fabric and stuff. Dave Jones will be here next Wednesday to move the machine upstairs for me. He will set her up and give her a spa treatment. When I decide what to do she will either be ready to sell or use. I will use the main floor for now. It is plenty big enough for me. My daughter and sister moved all of Elmer's clothes out of our closet and into totes so I could store fabric in there. I went up to move my clothes out and saw his side empty. It was like a knife in my stomach. I left and have not been able to go back in there yet. I am going to make throws out of his clothes when I am able. I know it is too soon to make big decisions but it seems like some must be made. My house is 4200 square feet with 3 floors. I have almost 4 acres of grass to take care of. It is entirely too much for me to handle alone. I need to get the basement finished so my son and his family can move in. They are anxious to leave their small apartment and I am anxious for them to be here. It will be set up so it will be an entirely separate living area with it's own entrance. I feel less overwhelmed since I decided it could be moved without organizing it. I will deal make my decision when I am ready. Thank everyone so much. I believe you told me what I knew in my heart. It is just too soon to decide. It just seemed like it may be easier to sell it all than deal with it. I have found that dealing with anything much more difficult than getting dressed is more than I want to do. All the kids and grandchildren were here tonight for "movie" night. They all came in their pj's. They are wonderful children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oma Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 You have a made a perfect decision. Just hold tight and breathe. Day by day things will get easier. You are so overdue for some good things in your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeeAnn Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 I think you made the right decision. I'm still praying for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quilting Heidi Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri I'm so proud of you! You will know what to do when the time is right, let your heart lead the way. Remember One Day at a Time, even one minute at a time! We're all here to hold you up if you need us!!!! (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
witha'K'quilting Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 It will be great to have your son and his family move in. and yes, just moving things for now and holding onto it is a good decision. You are still in my prayers my friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WestieMom Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri, think little baby steps for now and like Heidi says...one day at a time. Your family sounds wonderful. I continue to pray for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delld Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 still have you in my prayers and think you are making good choices!!!!! Having your family close will be a great blessing. I think you are doing great! Here another cyber Florida hug! (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Cheri)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyl Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Until you are ready just getting dressed for the day is enough. Time helps. Glad your son and family will be able to move in and help with the yard and day to day stuff. Hang in there. Shirley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoseCity Quilter Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri that sounds like the perfect plan! Width I was close enough to come help you.....I guess a hug from afar will have to do (((((((hug))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineseams Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 You are blessed to have your family nearby. I'm sure that after the basement is redone for your son and his family, and you have a little more space between you and this incredibly tragic event, you'll be able to take the next step. Thinking healing and strengthening thoughts in your direction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
srichardson Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri, Good decision. It will be a great help having your son and his family so close to give you support. Take your time and wait until things are clearer and you are more at peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Primitive1 Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 I too think you are making a good decision... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appr216 Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Glad to hear you are comfortable with your decision. Family is so important and glad you have family near. Hugs and prayers continue for you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaC Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri, I am so glad you will have your family moving in downstairs. Sounds like a win win for everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrandmaLKB Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Sounds like a good plan for now. Good luck to you. It will be nice to have family nearby. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heirloom Quilter Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri, It's kind of like moving into a new house where all the furniture doesn't fit exactly the way it did in your previous house. Sometimes I just have to leave the boxes packed for awhile until I can figure out where to put everything. Moving the fabric and your longarm upstairs is kinda the same thing. After a while you'll decide where to put everything. You don't have to do it all today. (If you know what I mean). You're making great decisions and it's wonderful that your son and his family will be able to share in the day to day responsibilities of homeowner upkeep. I'm keeping you in my prayers. Hugs from Florida. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandra Darlington Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 I think you made the best possible decision. It will be wonderful to have your family living with you. Prayers still going up for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisae Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 That's the perfect solution, Cheri. You will love having your son and his family living with you. I'm so glad you have such wonderful support from your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheri Butler Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri, You are a fantastic quilter! That's First and Foremost.., however, all things considered, you are doing the right thing by taking baby steps to get thru this difficult adjustment time. Because I know, (we all know) how good you are at quilting, i'm hoping you take "enough time" to hopefully see, that quilting is a part of you, and a talent that i'm sure Elmer would love to see you continue. Know that whatever your decisions you make, you have all of us here, standing behind you, holding and backing you UP! Quilted Hugs, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustSewSimple Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 I didn't realize your family would be moving in with you in that basement area. That is a great plan. You will have the help you need, less to take care of and plenty of company when you want it. As for the quilting......you may decide to have that business after all. It might be just the thing to get you up and moving early every morning. I think of you all the time and know you are hurting. I wish there was some way to comfort you from a distance. Just know we are here and we care very much about your pain. Just know that he entered Heaven having been well loved here on earth. Blessings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda G. Craig Posted March 15, 2013 Report Share Posted March 15, 2013 Cheri, I am soooo proud of you! You have a great plan in place, moving the "quilty" things upstairs to sort through later, your son and family joining you. How wonderful to have Dave Jones move your machine for you. No one better than Dave to get that all accomplished for you, he's such a great person. Wish I could give you a hug in person, but know that I am thinking of you and praying for you every day. ((((((((Hugs)))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fastquilts Posted March 16, 2013 Report Share Posted March 16, 2013 I spent the day with Cheri today and I did get to give her a few hugs! I enjoyed helping her today and I am so glad she has decided to wait to make up her mind about all this. She is a wonderful person and I am so thankful for her friendship. Love you Cheri! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bekah Posted March 16, 2013 Report Share Posted March 16, 2013 You absolutely made the right decision for now. How wonderful that out of this unthinkable tragedy, some good will come in that your son and his family will be able to be with you. Baby steps and just breathing every day are enough for now. Still praying for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitepinesquilter Posted March 18, 2013 Report Share Posted March 18, 2013 I'm glad you've at least made the temporary decision to hold on to your quilting life. Getting dressed IS terribly difficult so soon after what happened to Elmer, so selling a shared hobby and business would be understandably overwhelming to decide. You are so blessed to have your family so close and to be so ((close)) - glad you are able to take advantage of their willing and helping presence. A movie night arriving in pajamas - priceless! ! What a beautiful family you have! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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