RitaR Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 Hi.. We are sitting here, trying to decide what to do for a big splash for our 55th anniversary?? No money to spend, kids probably won't do much, dinner and a card.. I don't have a clue what we'd like, or how to do it. I just feel this anniversary is so important. Don't really know why. I was quite ill and being overdosed on prednisone (prescribed by a Former Dr.) when our 50th anniversary hit, so we didn't do anything but supper. Any idea how the gal asked for people to pay off her credit cards and got lots of help? ROFL, we really are close to that. So tired of paying off credit cards and not making charges. We do send a lot more than they say the minimum is, and not the extra $$ are to go towards the principal. Just tired and discouraged I guess. Rita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neher-in-law5 Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 Some of the times I have enjoyed most with my husband have been days when we just take the day off and go see the things that we enjoy the most. He gets waterfalls and I get quilts. One of the best birthday "gifts" he gave me a few years ago was to leave early and have breakfast at his brother's cafe, drive along the Mississippi River and stop in any of the little towns at any of the little shops we felt like seeing. We spent the whole day like that and the meals were the cafe breakfast and lunch at Subway. A packed picnic could replace the purchased meals. I hope you find the right splash for both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oireachtas Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 If really low budget try to remember what you did on some dates when your had just met. I'm sure there wasn't much money then either. Maybe recreate one of those special days that made you decide that he was "the one". Not too expensive but a little splurge could be maybe an overnight trip to someplace like Charlottesville. Stay in a B&B and spend a day at Monticello. Interesting history and beautiful gardens. Same idea but Asheville and Biltmore. . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisquilter Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 We like to hike, so going to a state park we have never been to is fun thing for us. You usually pass through some really cute little towns on the way. Those are fun to explore and eat at the local diner. No money for a cruise for us. LOL You are so lucky to be near the mountains! Not so many here in Ohio! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cblevins Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 Our favorite times were when we hopped in the car with no plan. Bologna sandwhiches and soda at the little country stores we would stop at......finding covered bridges....looking for special rocks when we stopped somewhere...hunting down old churches...... and ALWAYS holding hands. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonnie H Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 I agree with Cheri! I love driving with DH and seeing where the road takes us. Pack a lunch, a camera, and bring a quilt (or, at our age, chairs LOL). Stop and have a little picnic where ever pleases you. Enjoy nature, enjoy the company. No need for lots of money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buslady Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 We just spent our 55th anniversary on the 10th of this month. We just spent the day together, doing nothing special, and ate out at Hardee's. It was a treat just being together, and holding hands. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LFQuilts Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 Rita and Himself, Congratulations on your almost 55th wedding anniversary! My 25th is around the corner and I'm bummed that my husband will be out of the country. But the great thing about being married this long is knowing the celebration will be special whenever it happens. Special for us does not involve a lot of money. One of my favorite anniversaries involved a long walk down Peachtree Rd. here in Atlanta. The street holds lots of memories for us from different parts of our lives. We stopped and toured several churches as well as visited the High Museum. So, keep it simple. Maybe drive around to visit some of your favorite areas/sites. Pack a picnic lunch or have a simple meal somewhere. Hold hands and give thanks for the good times. Lynn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonnie H Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 Rita, I wanted to say congrats to you and your DH for 55 years together but forgot, so CONGRATS!!! and to Buslady and her DH, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LFQuilts Posted July 23, 2013 Report Share Posted July 23, 2013 BTW, Rita, what is the actual anniversary date? Lynn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenscratch Posted July 24, 2013 Report Share Posted July 24, 2013 Set the table with fine china, light some candles, turn down the lights and have a nice meal. Have him do the meat on the grill while you do the veggies in the kitchen. That way you aren't doing all the cooking. Then let him help you wash the dishes before you watch a favorite movie snuggled up on the couch. It's probably been a long time since you've done that if you are like us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendy-ON Posted July 24, 2013 Report Share Posted July 24, 2013 Congratulations! 55 yrs is really something! I like Teresa's suggestion but then I tend to be a low key kinda girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calicokat Posted July 24, 2013 Report Share Posted July 24, 2013 And have someone snap a pix of the two of you somewhere during the day - it will be a great inexpensive momento of whatever you choose to do!! I always take the pix in our family, as a result I'm usually not in them, having both of us in one is RARE and a treasure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Primitive1 Posted July 24, 2013 Report Share Posted July 24, 2013 Congratulations on 55 years! I would say try to go back to a place you went on one of your first dates, or maybe when he asked you to marry him and write love letters to each other....a love letter from my DH would mean more to me than a dinner or card anyday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaR Posted July 24, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 24, 2013 The date of Number 55 will be Aug. 15. LOL, being young and he a low ranking airman, we picked Aug. 15. for our wedding day, as that was one of the two pay days a month we had at that time. We wanted to always have a bit extra for our anniversary. A couple years later, they canceled the mid month pay day and made it one per month. Murphy's law. Once we were married, the dating stopped and we'd only go out on New Years eve and out anniversary. His idea of touring to see places/hings is just one glance and he's seen it, sometimes, just driving by, he considers having seen it. Not my idea at all and we get into a fuss. I'd really like to get away for 2-3 nights, and just forget it all here at home. I am just too darned giving at times, as I just bought a small inexpensive-for-a-good-Microwave appliance, for the ECA. probably a couple days food cost. Someone broke the more pricy and smaller one than this, That we bought last year. A lot of members and a lot of room renters use it, so can't blame anyone and of course they don't admit it nor step up to get a new one. I can't walk far and too many of the trails I'd love to go on, are too rough or go up inclines my motorized scooter just can't climb, and frankly though he thinks different, Himself is just plain getting too old to be pushing me and the chair or even just the chair up the hills. I so love the out-in-the-wild trails.. We did go to To the Gardens out in Victoria Gardens BC, and the Butterfly gardens. He liked the butterflies but couldn't care about what grows, doesn't say he likes, or thinks something is pretty, or unique. We also went to a Lama Farm, which he seemed to enjoy. Maybe he needs things with activity in them. I'd love to go over to the ocean, at Wilmington and go ocean fishing, or down to Fla and swim with the manitee, hit a casino for $20.00 worth of fun.. and it can last for hours, so is inexpensive. Last year we stopped up in Indiana and I won over $700. then like a fool, stopped at a rest stop and forgot my purse was hanging on the door. Someone stole the cash, but left everything else. That really Was a Lot of Fun. I think I like it as it gets me away from him for a while, and around others.. something we only do with are church and the ECA which is also the Quilt Guild. As for snuggling, we've not done that in probably 25 years. He just wants to sit in his throne sized recliner, (roflmho), and totally ignores me when I've tried, many times, to get more personal. It seems since the prostrate surgery in '98, he has absolutely no need for personal touch so thats the sad story of that side of things. It really is just so hard.. He doesn't want to plan anything and has no sense, by his admission, of doing things or being romantic. I am considering all suggestions above, and trying to think hard. I'd love to drive the Smokies Parkway Highway. I think I'm down about all this today because he makes it so difficult with his attitude, and couldn't care less about budgeting. Gotta hug someone, so ((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS)))))))))))))))))))) Rita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenscratch Posted July 24, 2013 Report Share Posted July 24, 2013 Drive up to Bat Cave and Chimney Rock, slide down Pisgah Falls. At your age that would be a hoot. Throw a line in Lake Lure and catch a bluegill. What about the Biltmore Mansion? There are lots of things not really far from you that are free or very cheap, and don't involve a lot of walking. We stayed in a little cabin on an apple orchard somewhere near Saluda, Hendersonville area and it was not really expensive. They had their own little fishing lake and it was within an hour or so of the big touristy things to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cblevins Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Ahh Rita your post made me sad. I think I would sit down next to him and grab his hand. If he complains tell him to "Get over it".!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaR Posted July 25, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Thanks Cheri. I can't get in the rocker with him, to hold his hand. If I sit on his lap he tells me my butt hurts his leg. It is sad, and so darned hard to live with, since nothing I do is accepted even enough to try. Oh well, I can still sit him on a stump and throw acorns at him, or tie him up and shoot the soft beebees at him. maybe I could catch a bee and make it sting him? lolol.. my thoughts do run wild.. He told me last night that our youngest Daughter Valerie booked an overnighter for us up in Boone, near our oldest granddaughter. Roland added an extra night.. I'm hoping the blackberries will be ripe and we can pick some. May be a wee bit early. So, at least something is going to happen. It will be fun to just get away and be with people that I can talk with. So considering all above, as I can still cry wolf and either ask him to get away for the day with me, or I can go by myself.. I know where there are 2 quilt shops, and a Michaels, and a Hobby Lobby. I can spend a lot of time going througn those places.. Also know where there is a Stone Cold Ice cream shop, or a root beer float would taste real good, also. Thank you for your time, the suggestions and help. Luv ya folks.. RIta Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaR Posted July 25, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 A BIG Congratulations to buslady, glad to see you made it this far, and to Lynn and their upcoming 25th. Even that is a feat to reach these years. Congratulations.. God Bless, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heritage Keepsakes Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Rita, Happy Anniversary for the 15th Aug!! That is a special day in our household too, as it's the day my oldest daughter got married. 4 years ago this year. Whatever your plans are, for the 15th, have a wonderful day, knowing your friends will be thinking of you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewhappy Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 My dear friend ~ It may be difficult but I think you should go somewhere by yourself!! Somewhere you have never been, stay overnite, shop where you want, see what you want, eat where and when you want, order room service for breakfast, leave when you want! It can be a bit suprising (and innexpensive) to have a 24 hour vacation!! HUgs to you my friend! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitepinesquilter Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 rita, congratulations on your upcoming anniversary, 55 years is something else!! Enjoy your couple nights away in Boone. Maybe you'll be surprised even further yet! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buslady Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Thank you for the congratulations. We have so much to be thankful for. John is still loving, and we do everything together. We do chores, gardening, and cleaning the house. When I am quilting, John does the cooking and the dishes. We both have some health problems, but are taking them in stride. Maybe Rita, you will have fun on your anniversary. I will pray that things will go well for you and your husband. Maybe he is feeling down too, so it will be up to you to have a good time. God will see you through this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBQLTN2 Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Awesome, congratulations to both of you. I am sure not many will be able to say they have been married that long in the next generations to come. I wish you both a wonderful day and just enjoy each other, it isn't what you do but rather just being together. Go get a ice cream float with two straws. whatever it is that makes you smile. love and prayers Jeanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appr216 Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 Hope your anniversary will be an extra special day for you in whatever you decide to do. Congratulations to both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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