cblevins Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Hi everyone! I just wanted to update a little. All of Elmer's hair is gone and it makes me so sad. I don't mind the bald head at all but it is a constant reminder of the cancer. It was easier to pretend for a little while that everything might be ok when he still looked the same. The Mitotane treatment is taking a toll on him. He is up to 4 pills a day now. They will keep increasing them 1 more per week until he simply can't tolerate it. He itches all over and he is having some mental confusion...common side effects of mitotane. He starts his second round of IV chemo next Thursday and will take it for 7 days. Sometime after that they will do the scans again to see if it has made a difference. Adrenal cancer doesn't usually respond well to treatment and since he was in stage 4 when they found it ....... keep the prayers up please. I would like the family to have another Christmas together and we have a pretty good chance of that happening if the chemo is helping. Not such a good chance if it isn't helping. I try hard to keep the caringbridge site upbeat and positive for the kids and other family members but sometimes I am not sure I will be able to survive this even if I wanted to and I am not at all sure that I want to. My first husband (of 24 years) died in my arms from cancer, and now I am watching Elmer. We will be celebrating our 15th ann. the last of October. I love him and I just don't know how I will let him go. I'm sorry...I just needed to whine a little tonight 8:45 am Thursday THANKS EVERYONE FOR THE SOFT LANDING!!!!! :) I added a pic but it went farther down somewhere! It is Elmer Nathan and I right before he got sick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave-Jane Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Elmer. We are here for you --- so glad you have a place to express your feelings!! Jane & Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Della Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cancer is such a monster!!! I hear your love for Elmer and our hearts go out to you! Prayers are still coming for both you and Elmer!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudithWashburnQuiltStudo Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, You are not whinning, you can share your fears any time, we are here unconditionally. I understand your pain. You are in my prayers every day. Hang in there and when you feel you cannot, come here and we will comfort you and hold you up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoseCity Quilter Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 ((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))) I can understand your feelings. Wish I was closer to give you a real hug. Still keeping you both in my prayers..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheri Butler Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Oh Cheri, You are BOTH in my prayers girl! Quilted hugs to you BOTH! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IQ'd Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, Thanks for the update! It is a good sign that he is bald now-it means the fast growing cells (cancer) are dying. I wish there was something to say to you to help. I lost my husband 5 years ago to cancer and I know what you are going through a little bit. I have not had any other even casual relationships since he passed. Wouldn't want to go through that again, BUT you have had another love and those years could have been empty. Do Elmer a favor and treasure life as much as he would if given the chance. You can still throw yourself a pity party now and again but go at life-many don't get the chance. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) TO YOU!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beachside Quilter Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, my thoughts are with both you and Elmer, and am sending you (((hugs))). Wish there was something I could say or do to help, but maybe knowing that others are thinking of you both will bolster you. You are strong, and so is Elmer! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda G. Craig Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, my thoughts and prayers are with you and Elmer each day. You just go ahead, whine away, this is a soft place to fall, with many friends to lift you up. (((Hugs))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
connieb Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, Prayers for both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
witha'K'quilting Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Hugs and prayers continue for you both. We are family....and this family cares much for you both. You can share your feelings here anytime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustSewSimple Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 I love the saying , " a soft place to land!" Linda said that well. This is a soft place to land your feelings, your emotions. We hear you and we have broad shoulders so just whine away! I will remember you in my prayers and pray you have many Christmases together. Blessings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WestieMom Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, you and Elmer continue in my prayers. We are here for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KathG Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 ((((((Cheri))))) you and Elmer are in my prayers and thoughts and will stay there as long as you need them. You are an amazingly strong Lady and I don't think you are whining. You need a place to come and talk and share your fears. I am glad that you can come and share this with your APQS family. Know we will always be here when you need us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb2bie Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Hugs to you Cheri, I can not imagine what you are going thru and selfishly hope I never have to find out!! I will keep you in my prayers that whatever happens, the good time with Elmer can cloud out the pain now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quilting Heidi Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri it is ok for you to whine, we all understand! Keeping you both in my prayers. If I were there I would give you a giant ((((((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))))))))) but we'll just have to settle for a cyber hug. Hang in there and remember try to take it one day at a time....I know how hard that can be but I find when I remind myself of that it isn't so overwhelming! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delld Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Got you Cheri and Elmer in my prayers. Hope you feel God's arms round both of you. As Linda said this is a very soft place to land. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs to you and Elmer)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LFQuilts Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, Thank you for the update. It isn't whining to express your deep love for Elmer and the pain you are going through. Big hugs to your family. Lynn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stagecl Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 I will continue to keep you and Elmer in my thoughts and prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
K. Szymaszek Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Cheri, don't ever feel like you are whining. You are going through something no one should have to go through. More people care about you and Elmer then you know, even people who don't even know you. I pray right now that God wraps you and Elmer in His loving arms and give you peace down deep in your spirit, comfort in your soul and strength in your body in Jesus name. I will continue to pray for you and Elmer. K Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cblevins Posted July 12, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 picture from a few months ago when Nathan (grandson) graduated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaC Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 God Bless all of you Cheri; we are praying and wishing we could help. I love the photo; one to treasure for sure! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustSewSimple Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 You all look just so so happy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quilting Heidi Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 Great picture Cheri. We will be here for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meg Posted July 12, 2012 Report Share Posted July 12, 2012 i'll continue praying for you and your family, cheri. (((hugs))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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