Quilting Heidi Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 OK prayer warriors I need your help. Headed to court again today for my niece Madison. Many of you know the story. Mom and Dad split when she was 2, they were never married. I've been caring for Madison since she was 2 1/2 and it has been a long haul, she is now 7. Her mother has made it so difficult and the things this little girl has to live through just make me shutter. I don't have her as much as I used to which breaks my heart but her mother will never keep me out of her life. Her mother has decided to move again, 7 times since she was 2, and this time it is more than an hour from my brother in-law's house. This means that their visitations would be greatly impacted. They were just back in court and agreed BIL would get his 3 days a week that he would have her based on his work schedule. Really that is the agreement that they have had for the last 2 years but Madison's mother always withholds Madison when she doesn't get her way. This time they specified every day for a year and took out the first right of refusal. That was a win for us because if BIL had to work overtime then he could give her to me without her mother's approval. We thought we were finally onto easier days. Then BIL got a letter in the mail telling him they would be moving again. He is the only one that has anything to do with school. Her mother has never gone to a parent teacher conference and didn't even attend her kindergarten graduation. Her mother doesn't usually even bath her when she has her and she goes to school dirty, tired and hungry. It is enough to just tear you to pieces. No child should have to live like that. BIL volunteers at the school and always takes such good care of Madison. He got an emergency order to stop her mother from moving but her mother moved any way! Not sure how the judge will view that but I really hope he slams her. Praying BIL gets primary custody so Madison can live with him and go to the school that is 2 doors from BIL. That way her mother can move all she wants but Madison will have a more stable life. Please, please, please pray that the judge sees what her mother is doing and makes a good decision. I can tell you it won't be in Madison's best interest if she has to commute more than 2 1/2 hours a day when her father has her if her mother gets to move her. BIL would have to make 2 round trips, almost 5 hours of driving on school days. My stomach is in knots. I would like to think that now that the law guardian finally see's her mother for what she is and plans on telling the judge that this move is not in Madison's best interest things will finally go our way but sadly the system is so broken I have no faith left in it. We just had a double murder/suicide of a mother who got her children back even though an uncle was scared what his sister might do. Now those two children are dead. Just makes me sick that the system failed those two kids too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbams Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanRae Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 How heartbreaking. Certainly will keep this in prayer today. Please let us know how it goes today. Jeannie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micajah Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 I had some of this same thing in my family. It's resolved now and for the best interest of the child. I will certainly be thinking of Madison and praying the ones making the decisions, make the one that is in her interest and not just the interest of the biological mother. Sounds as if she is just an egg donor anyway. Debbie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GMALKB Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Always sad when the innocent kids get caught in the middle. Doesn't sound like "Mom" even wants the little girl, but is holding on just to spite everyone else and because she can. I sometimes wonder about judges and what on earth they are thinking! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmkeindl1 Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Can't you send a letter (just like you wrote here) to the judge? Anyone? I've thought I've heard of that before, maybe your BIL's attorney will know? BEST WISHES TO YOU ALL and especially Madison (she is lucky to have you in her life!). XOXOXO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercedes Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying for Madison. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeannieB Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 praying for discernment for the judge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustSewSimple Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying that the Judge's eyes will be opened! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonnie H Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Heidi, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I've been through the same type of situation with my own daughter 25 years ago and also with my stepdaughter. It is the absolute WORST thing to go through. My guess would be that a parent who causes troubles eventually is "found out" by the system and then the system will act. It would seem Madison's mother is eventually going to be in for a bit of medicine from the judge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appr216 Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Prayers and hugs coming your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonnie H Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Just a thought. Teachers are mandatory reporters of child abuse and child endangerment. We ended up getting custody of my husband's daughter after her teacher reported a conversation my stepdaughter had with her (yes, we did encourage the child to talk to her teacher about what was going on!!). The teachers at the school already had some idea things weren't good with the home life at mom's house. Anyway, after the talk with the teacher, the teacher called CPS and that started the ball rolling in a way we hadn't had going for us before. Would Madison be old enough to handle talking to a teacher if she were in danger? Most kids don't know they should talk to someone of authority. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marti10245 Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Prayers for Madison and I pray the Judge can see through her Mother. My heart brakes for this precious little girl. God bless you and your family, Marti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dlnewell Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Yes, will pray that the truth be seen by all and the judge will act accordingly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuiltGuy Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying for the best outcome, this sort of situation is so sad and the courts don't always get the full picture. I hope this time the Judge sees what is going on, perhaps the fact that she ignored a court order will help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cblevins Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Oh Heidi my heart breaks for Madison. Hang in there and please let us know as soon as possible. Many of us have been on here long enough that we feel like we know Madison and what all of you have been through. Praying that God we see fit to intervene. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cblevins Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Bonnie, I worked in the school system for over 20 years and your idea is excellent! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kloar Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying for Madison and you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anniemueller Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 I'm thinking of you Heidi. I hope the judge rules in your favor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maggienoella Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 I'm praying for Madison and you, Heidi. I hope the judge makes the best decision. Joan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
srichardson Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Thinking good thoughts for your family today. It is hard to believe that Madison is seven. She needs and deserves some stability in her young life. We haven't seen any photos of her lately! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheagatzi Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 I'm sending positive thoughts your way and hoping that Madison gets the stable and loving life that she deserves <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeidiP Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying form Madison and wisdom for the Judge and Gardian to see things accurately and decide in Madison's best interest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenscratch Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Praying for you and Madison Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue E. Posted July 3, 2014 Report Share Posted July 3, 2014 Oh Heidi, I'm so sorry to hear that this problem hasn't yet been resolved in your and Madison's favor. Yes, I am once again praying that the judge does the right thing this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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