NQR - Prayers for my Husband

[Gretchen]

Such a difficult time for both of you, sending hugs and wishing you peace.

[Anniquilter]

Dory & Dennis (((hugs))) & prayers. My DH had a similar decision with his mother complicated by the fact that we still lived in England & he couldn't get there in time. One thing we asked tho' was to have a hospital chaplain visit with her. She just let go after that as if she was just ready to go.

Thinking of you both & all your family, God Bless!

[GrandmaLKB]

So, so sorry...........Mom and I had to make that decision with my Dad. He was only 78, but end stage Alzheimers. Of course the hospital wanted to put in all these feeding tubes, etc., but to what end? We had a long talk with the Hospice people at the hospital. We felt better about making the decision to stop all meds, no tubes, nothing........Dad was moved to a Hospice Center closer to home and died peacefully a week later.

I can sympathize with all of you. I have a brother, but he didn't come around to help with any decisions. So be it.

[Hollyrw]

Dory,

Hugs and prayers for you and Dennis. I know the DNR is suppose to make these decisions easier but it's not always black & white.

[nora123]

Dear Dory, I feel your pain. Both of my parents were DNR and died in hospice. My mom lingered a few days but my father slipped peacefully into the mist. I know I will see him again and I know he was in pain but after 2 years I still miss him just as bad as the day he died. He was my dearest and best lifelong friend. Please tell you husband I am wishing him strength at this very hard time.

Blessings,Nora

[Front Porch Quilting]

Dory- I hope for peace for you and your husband. Love is going to make the best decision, and it is obvious that your husband loves his Mom very much. That is what makes it so tough. Prayers for all involved.

[newellyn]

Thinking of you Dory. Hang in there.

[lcquilting]

Thinking and praying for you all.

[kennan100]

Prayers going up for Dennis & you. He'll make the decision when he's ready to let her go, his Mom will understand that. Hugs for all of you!!

[Dave-Jane]

Many thoughts and prayers are sent your way -

[DoryJM]

Thank you everyone for your prayers and good wishes. Dennis has made the decision and the phone call (she's in a hospital 90 minutes away) to stop the IV fluids. He talked with the doc and she agreed it was the best decision, then made sure he was okay with the decision before she did it. She's a great doc, IMO.

Dennis had a long talk with a cousin of Donna's who is only a few years younger. She was able to shed some light on Donna's fear of dying, even though she was Catholic. Dennis dad had been divorced and Donna married him and had Dennis "out of wedlock" in the eyes of the church. Her upbringing in the church had been when everything was pretty much fire and brimstone...thus her fear of dying.

Dennis daughters are coming up tomorrow and they will all go over to see her. Its a good decision and Dennis seems to have let go of his guilt for making it. I'm sure his moods will swing, but I do feel he's done the right thing.

Thanks again. I'm not usually one to share my feelings (with anyone!), so it was nice to share and have you all respond so lovingly. We really are an APQS family; I appreciate all of you more than you'll ever know.

[witha'K'quilting]

The Lord will give forgiveness for those who ask. If she knows the Lord...on a personal level...there should be no fear of dying.

Dennis and the girls and you are in my prayers still. My heart breaks for all of you! Love you very much.

[BethDurand]

Oh Dory,

What a time for both of you. You are all in my prayers, I wish I knew what to say. I'm sorry.

[lisae]

Dory, sending lots of good thoughts and prayers for you and Dennis. Big ((((HUGS)))).

[CindyT]

Prayers all goes according to His plan and comfort to Dennis, you and the family. We never know what life has in store for us, but it's good to know others care and will be there for comfort/support.

[Sharon M]

words fail me... sending hugs & prayers and warm thoughts.

[WestieMom]

Dory, Sending prayers and comfort to you, your husband and your MIL.

[gardenslug]

Dory - praying for you, Dennis and his Mom.

Marilyn

[Carreen]

Dory, I'm so sorry you all have to deal with this. At 94, she has had a very long life. Prayers for all of you.

Carreen

[blair8904]

Thoughts and prayers for Dennis, his Mom and you.

[Beachside Quilter]

Dory, (((hugs))) and strength and peace for you, Dennis and Donna.

Vickie Oliver

Beachside Quilter

APQS Rep SW FL

[Sandra Darlington]

Hugs to you and Dennis. I understand what he is going through, as my Mother died in Hospice care nearly two years ago. It is hard to watch them die, but in most of these situations there is nothing better to do, as their quality of life is gone. My Mother was 91 1/2 when she died, so she lived a long and happy life, as it seems Dennis's Mother also did. She lived in her own home and was still very active until about 2 weeks before she died. In the end she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, although she never new she had it. It is so very sad, but there comes a time when "it is the right time" to pass on.

[meg]

still praying for all of you - hope u can all find peace.

[ffq-lar]

I hope Dennis finds comfort in knowing his decision is the right one--his dear mom is trusting him to take care of her, even though the decision is heart-wrenching. Love to you both--Linda

[Quilting Heidi]

Dory,

Please give Denis a hug for me and tell him he is a good man for honoring his mothers wishes. I had to make the decision not to put my father on life support and everytime I start feeling sad about it I remind myself that all I did was follow his wishes and that always makes me feel better. Hugs to you both! I'll pray for a quick and peaceful passing for your MIL.